BDSM Play List

Also see Femdom Playlist

BDSM/Fetish PLAY LIST

This BDSM/Fetish play list was inspired by many existing lists on the internet....it was prepared and is intended for educational purposes only and should not be used for commercial gain.

This is a BDSM/Fetish play list that may help couples figure out what their wants and needs are. You may not like play lists but sometimes they are good communication tools.

When someone fills it out they should indicate if they are filling it out for their ultimate Dominant/Top partner or for someone in particular, taking into consideration the nature of the relationship. In other words if you were filling it out for your longtime Dominant partner it would look different than if you were filling it out for a new casual play partner. Some of the answers would be different based on the nature of the relationship and the level of trust involved.

Please note; nothing in my opinion takes the place of chemistry and face to face communication.

How to fill out the forms;

A. Done it YES or NO

B. Indicate how you felt about it when you did it using the following indicators;

NO means you will NOT do that activity under any circumstances. Its a hard limit and will never happen with anyone. PERIOD! THE END! DON'T EVEN GO THERE!
0   means you HATE that activity, but you are willing to do it at least a little to please the Dominant/Top, but you would really rather not. It can also mean you are not able to do that activity with a casual play partner but in the right situation, like a committed relationship, you would be capable of doing it. And this is why communication will never take the place of a play list.
1   means you don't care much about it....under the right circumstances it might be fun...what the hell...ok you will try it.
2   means you're curious about it, not sure how you'll respond...in theory you think you will like it.....but you  reserve the right to hate it.
3   means it's pleasurable or fun....and you hope the Dominant/Top can make it more fun.
4   means you love it, you get hot thinking about it....and you really really want to do it.
5   means the activity is a wild turn-on, you want to do it more more more...all the time...AGAIN!!!

C.  Indicate for each item how you feel RIGHT NOW about doing that activity with the person who asked you to fill this BDSM/Fetish play list out, assuming there will be chemistry when you actually meet.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances. Its a hard limit and will never happen with anyone. PERIOD! THE END! DON'T EVEN GO THERE!
0   means you HATE that activity, but you are willing to do it at least a little to please the Dominant. It can also mean you are not able to do that activity with a casual play partner but in the right situation, like a committed relationship, you would be capable of doing it. And this is why communication will never take the place of a BDSM/Fetish play list.
1   means you don't care much about it....under the right circumstances it might be fun...what the hell...ok you will try it.
2   means you're curious about it, not sure how you'll respond...in theory you think you will like it.....but you  reserve the right to hate it.
3   means it's pleasurable or fun....and you hope the Dominant/Top can make it more fun.
4   means you love it, you get hot thinking about it....and you really really want to do it.
5   means the activity is a wild turn-on, you want to do it more more more...all the time...AGAIN!!!

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I, ________________, am filling this BDSM/Fetish play list out at the request of _______________ . 

My experience in BDSM is best described as (circle one);

None     Some     Casual     Serious     Extensive

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SEX

Is sex something you want in your BDSM relationship?

Define sex;

Define Safe Sex;

ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT

BONDAGE

Degree of immobility or helplessness enjoyed (circle one) Light     Medium     Heavy

ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT

PUNISHMENT

Do you respond to punishment?

Under what circumstances is punishment not ok?

ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT

ROLE PLAY

ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT

FETISH 

What items or types of play make the little man in your boat stand up and sing?

ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT

HUMILIATION & EXHIBITIONISM

Is humiliation something you might get into?

What about being displayed in public?

What types of humiliation would be off limits?

ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT

BODILY FUNCTIONS

ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT

INTENSE SENSATION AND IMPACT PLAY

ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT

OTHER STUFF

ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT

For you, the turn on of BDSM is:  (rate from 1 to 6 with 1 being most erotic):

ITEM, VALUE, COMMENT

What positions have the highest erotic value for you (rate from 1 to 6 with 1 being most erotic):

What toys have the highest erotic value for you (1=some interest; 2=pretty exciting; 3=very erotic)

ITEM, VALUE, COMMENT

How do you usually like it? (use all that apply)
(N) never, (T) thuddy, (S) stingy, (L) light, (M) medium , (H) heavy , (?) unsure

These activities interest me and why;

Your biggest fantasy is;

Your favorite scene was;

Your worst scene was;

Your biggest fears are;

How do you feel about Polyamory?

Do you consider yourself Poly or Monogamous?

What parts of your body are most erotically sensitive?

What parts of your Dom's body would you most like to pleasure?

List any known limits for the specific play partner this questionnaire is being prepared for;

What disease screenings have you had (dates) and what were the outcomes?

What disease screenings are you willing to get?

What disease screenings are you unwilling to get and why?

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For the Tops/Dominants;

My experience in BDSM is best described as (circle one);

None     Some     Casual     Serious     Extensive

I as the Top/Dominant have the following limits;

What safewords will be used and what are their specific meanings?

My style of BDSM is best described as;

If you couldn't use toys, pain or sex, how would you Dominate your submissive/bottom?

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Dominant/Top's Real Name is ________________________

Place of Employment_________________________

Employer Phone # __________________

I, _____________________, give _________________ permission to contact my place of employment and verify my name and employment. I understand this info will be given to the safe call person of the  play partner when we meet in real life.

Member of the following BDSM organizations;

References;

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Submissive/bottom's Real Name is ________________________

Place of Employment_________________________

Employer Phone # __________________

I, _____________________, give _________________ permission to contact my place of employment and verify my name and employment. I understand this info will be given to the safe call person of the  play partner when we meet in real life.

Member of the following BDSM organizations;

References;